Sexual relations between fiances
I am engaged and we are due to get married soon. My fiancé insists that we sleep together and says it’s fine if we ‘mess around’ as we’re due to get married. I know this is wrong for us to have sexual relations but how can I convince him gently?
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh
Thank you for your question.
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. You are correct in your understanding that sexual relations and fondling is only permissible after nikah (marriage). I suggest you let him know that you want to have the best relationship possible as husband and wife and this will only happen if both of you follow the dictates of Allah Almighty. True love is only from Allah Almighty and this is manifested through obedience to Him.
And Allah knows best.
Answered by Shaykh Yusuf Badat
Hadith of the Day Imam
Imam of the Islamic Foundation of Toronto and Director of Mathabah institute
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