Should I disclose my past affairs to my partner?
I learnt I am not supposed to disclose my past sins after repentance. I wish to get married soon even though I haven’t found a suitor yet, but being a woman I fear that my husband would find out I have been with a man before when we are together. What do I say when he asks questions about who I have been with?
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh
Thank you for your question.
Once you have repented, it is not necessary to disclose your past sin to others, even though it may be a major sin such as adultery and fornication. If the matter is brought up in your discussions to a potential spouse, you can simply say that you have committed some errors in the past which you have repented from.
Your current situation and character is what your spouse should be looking at. There is no need to talk about matters of the past, especially when you have repented.
“All the children of Ādam are sinful and the best of sinners are those who repent.” (Tirmidhī, Musnad Aḥmad)
And Allah knows best.
Answered by Shaykh Yusuf Badat
Hadith of the Day Imam
Imam of the Islamic Foundation of Toronto and Director of Mathabah Institute
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